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Saturday, September 22, 2012
Simple Truth
I searched through rebellion, drugs, diets, mysticism, religions,
intellectualism and much more, only to begin to find that truth is basically
simple - and feels good, clean and right.
Ah....Chick Corea, now there is a name from pop culture I recognize. I think his experience speaks to many of our generation, although I think I am younger than him......he was making his Cheech and Chong stuff when I was in high school. I didn't have much of a chance to experience the wild life, I married Ian and in some ways felt a little gypped. Ian encouraged my enthusiasm for mysticism, religion and higher education, however - he just wouldn't allow the drugs and rebellion - even before his HoH days. :)
I didn't do a lot of searching or rebelling. I pretty much knew truth was good, clean and right. Of course, I grew up with foster siblings whose lives were destroyed by parents living on the edge and seeking thrills, only to crash and burn. Lessons learned through others and their pain.
Hmm, I sound boring. Lol! I like some adventure, but it didn't take much personal experience to learn the pitfalls of living on the wild side. My focus had always been on my responsibilities and living up to expectations - my parents' and grandparents', my own, my siblings and other relatives, friends, teachers. I don't wear it well when I disappoint those who count on me, look up to me, respect me. No unreasonable pressure, though - I bite back! ;-)
After witnessing first had the damage caused by those living on the edge, you learned lessons that others had to unfortunately learn the hard way. You might not have "acted out" in your searching or rebelling but you do search and rebel in your own way - as we all do.
Do we have the same definition of unreasonable pressure? I think not.
BTW, Irishey me darlin' - you could never be boring! LOL
Weeellllll, not sure, Cat. What is your definition?
I was referring to anybody pressuring me to do something illegal or immoral against my will, or pressuring me to do more than I push myself to do, or putting inordinate pressure on myself. Sometimes, my people got so used to me doing so much, they would get upset when I dropped a ball and didn't come through for them. I am soooo not taking that, but had to learn to say no to them and to me. I mastered it. I guess that's why I'm widely known as nice but intimidating. I don't see either extreme. {Shrugs}
Now, if you're talking another kind of pressure - in the posterior region... Lol! I have a story or two, but they're not only my stories to tell.
Talk to us, Cat Woman. How so you define unreasonable pressure?! (No pressure to tell, though, truly.)
Hey Irishey - When I read that you try to live up to the expectations of your parents' and grandparents', siblings and other relatives, friends, teachers, along with yourself and that you don't like to disappoint those who count on, look up to, or respect you, all I could think it whoa - I call that unreasonable pressure. With that many people in the mix, there are going to be conflicts in expectations so someone is always disappointed and you then fall short. Guess I misunderstood what you were saying. Sorry about that.
Now pressure in the posterior region is usually (note I said usually *grinning*) not unreasonable even though sometimes we would like to believe otherwise. LOL
My definition of unreasonable pressure? Hmmm. Short and sweet - Unreasonable = Anything I don't consider reasonable + Pressure = Being pushed to do anything that goes against my personal code. I know, can get me into trouble. :)
Sorry it took me awhile to get back over here. No need to apologize - I think "whoa" sums it up. I put on the brakes if I'm pushed too hard or in the wrong way.
More so, though, I don't like the resulting drama when I step outside what others expect of me, and I don't like to disappoint those important to me, but I also do what I do.
I do a lot for my people, because I really want to, and I do my best for them and for me, so we have high expectations all around. But, I don't stay in anyone's box ALL the time, not even my own.
They, and I, just have to deal with it when I push limits - theirs or mine, change direction, do something new, refuse to let myself be taken advantage of, object to certain things, let my inner rebel take the reins. Sometimes we grow through the struggle, which is good. Other times, the struggle is merely that, and I feel sad when I can't or won't live in their box, and they won't have it any other way.
Bleh, didn't mean to go all intense here. I should delete most of this. Feel free not to post it, really - you won't offend me!
Ah....Chick Corea, now there is a name from pop culture I recognize. I think his experience speaks to many of our generation, although I think I am younger than him......he was making his Cheech and Chong stuff when I was in high school.
ReplyDeleteI didn't have much of a chance to experience the wild life, I married Ian and in some ways felt a little gypped. Ian encouraged my enthusiasm for mysticism, religion and higher education, however - he just wouldn't allow the drugs and rebellion - even before his HoH days. :)
Sheesh Lillie, how narrow minded of Ian not to allow drugs and rebellion! ROFL
DeleteAhhhhh! Yes that says so much.
ReplyDeleteYes it does Minelle.
DeleteBeen there, done that, now I like it sweet and simple! It does just feel right :)
ReplyDeleteSoooo agree with you CG! :)
DeleteI didn't do a lot of searching or rebelling. I pretty much knew truth was good, clean and right. Of course, I grew up with foster siblings whose lives were destroyed by parents living on the edge and seeking thrills, only to crash and burn. Lessons learned through others and their pain.
ReplyDeleteHmm, I sound boring. Lol! I like some adventure, but it didn't take much personal experience to learn the pitfalls of living on the wild side. My focus had always been on my responsibilities and living up to expectations - my parents' and grandparents', my own, my siblings and other relatives, friends, teachers. I don't wear it well when I disappoint those who count on me, look up to me, respect me. No unreasonable pressure, though - I bite back! ;-)
Irishey
After witnessing first had the damage caused by those living on the edge, you learned lessons that others had to unfortunately learn the hard way. You might not have "acted out" in your searching or rebelling but you do search and rebel in your own way - as we all do.
DeleteDo we have the same definition of unreasonable pressure? I think not.
BTW, Irishey me darlin' - you could never be boring! LOL
Weeellllll, not sure, Cat. What is your definition?
DeleteI was referring to anybody pressuring me to do something illegal or immoral against my will, or pressuring me to do more than I push myself to do, or putting inordinate pressure on myself. Sometimes, my people got so used to me doing so much, they would get upset when I dropped a ball and didn't come through for them. I am soooo not taking that, but had to learn to say no to them and to me. I mastered it. I guess that's why I'm widely known as nice but intimidating. I don't see either extreme. {Shrugs}
Now, if you're talking another kind of pressure - in the posterior region... Lol! I have a story or two, but they're not only my stories to tell.
Talk to us, Cat Woman. How so you define unreasonable pressure?! (No pressure to tell, though, truly.)
Irishey
Hey Irishey - When I read that you try to live up to the expectations of your parents' and grandparents', siblings and other relatives, friends, teachers, along with yourself and that you don't like to disappoint those who count on, look up to, or respect you, all I could think it whoa - I call that unreasonable pressure. With that many people in the mix, there are going to be conflicts in expectations so someone is always disappointed and you then fall short. Guess I misunderstood what you were saying. Sorry about that.
DeleteNow pressure in the posterior region is usually (note I said usually *grinning*) not unreasonable even though sometimes we would like to believe otherwise. LOL
My definition of unreasonable pressure? Hmmm. Short and sweet - Unreasonable = Anything I don't consider reasonable + Pressure = Being pushed to do anything that goes against my personal code. I know, can get me into trouble. :)
Sorry it took me awhile to get back over here. No need to apologize - I think "whoa" sums it up. I put on the brakes if I'm pushed too hard or in the wrong way.
DeleteMore so, though, I don't like the resulting drama when I step outside what others expect of me, and I don't like to disappoint those important to me, but I also do what I do.
I do a lot for my people, because I really want to, and I do my best for them and for me, so we have high expectations all around. But, I don't stay in anyone's box ALL the time, not even my own.
They, and I, just have to deal with it when I push limits - theirs or mine, change direction, do something new, refuse to let myself be taken advantage of, object to certain things, let my inner rebel take the reins. Sometimes we grow through the struggle, which is good. Other times, the struggle is merely that, and I feel sad when I can't or won't live in their box, and they won't have it any other way.
Bleh, didn't mean to go all intense here. I should delete most of this. Feel free not to post it, really - you won't offend me!
Irishey
Hey Irishey - Why would I not publish your comment since you made some good points that may help someone?
DeleteThanks for the explanation.
Cat