Never Tolerate

10 Critical Things You Should Never Tolerate In a Relationship
 

 
Your relationship, whether it be romantic or not, should make you feel excited and happy about life, not stifled, repressed, or unloved. Many people stay in unhappy relationships just because they fear being alone or can’t picture their life without the person, even if their current situation doesn’t truly fulfill them anymore.

Everyone deserves respect, compassion, and love in relationships, but if you don’t feel as though your partner gives those to you, you might want to rethink your relationship with him or her.
 
HERE ARE 10 CRITICAL THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER TOLERATE IN A RELATIONSHIP:
 
1. DISRESPECTFUL LANGUAGE
First and foremost, a healthy relationship begins with respect for both individuals. You should never tolerate someone who calls you names, puts you down, or makes you feel uncomfortable in any way. Even if you’re having a heated argument, it doesn’t give your partner the right to treat you with disrespect just because they can’t control their language.
 
2. AN OVERLY CONTROLLING PARTNER
If you have a partner who can’t let you out of his or her sight without freaking out or thinking you’ll break their trust, then this should definitely raise some red flags. You should never tolerate someone who feels the need to control every aspect of your life and your relationship. According to an article on psychologytoday.com, Andrea Bonior, Ph.D., says,

“Toxic relationships can sneak up on almost anyone. And controlling behavior on the part of a partner knows no boundaries—people of any age, gender, sexual orientation or socioeconomic status can be in controlling relationships, playing either role.”
 
3. A BREACH OF TRUST
Aside from respect, mutual trust must exist in a relationship for it to thrive. If you can’t trust your partner, you should either talk to them about it, or end the relationship before you get in too deep. Both partners must feel totally comfortable, open, and supported in the relationship for it to work, and a lack of trust will kill an otherwise healthy relationship.
 
4. INCESSANT NEEDINESS
Of course, feeling wanted and needed in a relationship is normal, but it can go overboard if you’re not careful. Most people enjoy having a partner that asks them for help with certain things or just needs a hug or a shoulder to cry on sometimes. These things are perfectly normal – what isn’t normal, however, is an overly clingy, needy partner who can’t seem to do anything without you. It’s important to feel like you can live on your own without your SO around 24/7, so a partner who doesn’t display any independence should be a red flag to you.
 
5. FEELING LIKE YOU DON’T COME FIRST
While there are other important parts of life outside of relationships, your partner should prioritize you over other things. If he or she hangs out with friends more than you, for example, that shows they don’t take the commitment very seriously. Never tolerate someone who doesn’t take the time to make you feel special – you deserve someone who will treat you like the king or queen that you are.
 
6. NEGATIVITY
Now, of course negativity will be a part of any relationship in life, but it shouldn’t take precedence over a positive attitude. A negative outlook on life will translate into negative thoughts, and ultimately, a negative mind. People who focus on the negative tend to have low energy, blame others for their problems, and in general, won’t be the most fun, inspiring people to hang around. Don’t ever settle for someone who displays such negativity about life – it will only drag you down in the process.
 
7. EMOTIONAL UNAVAILABILITY
Your partner should be emotionally available; otherwise, you won’t be able to have a successful relationship with them. If they feel insecure or shy about displaying emotions, then they probably have deep-seated issues to work out before they can partake in a healthy, thriving relationship.
 
8. A PARTNER WHO DOESN’T LISTEN
Both of you should feel comfortable talking honestly and openly to each other. If your partner regularly talks over you or makes you feel like your opinion or thoughts don’t matter, this means he or she doesn’t really value you as a person. And you should never tolerate this sort of behavior in a relationship.
 
9. SOMEONE WHO DOESN’T SUPPORT YOUR DREAMS
Your partner should also back you 150% when it comes to your dreams and goals. You should never tolerate someone who gets jealous or tries to undermine your success – a truly supportive partner will encourage you and help you every step of the way.
 
10. IRRESPONSIBILITY
Finally, you should never tolerate a partner who isn’t willing to pick up the slack and take care of business. Adult responsibilities aren’t fun by any means, but they should at least take care of the minimum amount of chores and responsibilities needed for survival, and not depend on you to do all the dirty work.

Courtesy of Power of Positivity

Simple Math

"A customer a few weeks ago wanted to return this hair coloring, and exchange it for a different color, right?   So I tell her, she can hand it and the receipt to me, and I can do it all in one transaction if she goes to get the one she wants and any other items she wants.

So she does, and comes back.

I do the return first because it makes the return slip that I stick in the register shorter and easier to deal with, and that way I also don't forget to do it.


The way our system lists returns is a negative value on the receipt. I think in this case it was -6.99.

That said, I still have to scan the one she's swapping it for, but it's also 6.99, which is a positive value so it all evens out, right?


Not according to her.

As far as she was concerned, I shouldn't have charged her for it at all.

And I could not get her to understand that it evens out to a zero value, even with the assistance of one of my coworkers helping explain.


She left, then she came back again, and went to cosmetics that time to try and get it corrected.


It took a manager with a calculator to finally convince her that yes, I did not charge her a value for it." (Source)

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That 5.16 is not larger than 5.8.

I worked at a bank with a young coworker who thought that the staff interest rate on a term deposit of 5.8% was worse that the bank's standard rate at the time of 5.16%.

She also couldn't work out 10% of $200, even with a spreadsheet that someone made where all she had to do was enter the number 200 and then look and the large, colorful and well marked answer. (Source)

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Customer: If the cucumbers are on sale 4 for $3 why should I be charged .75 cents for one?

Me: Ma'am the sale price IS .75

Customer: That's bulls--t, the other guy would give it to me for the sale price.  I want to talk to someone who knows what the hell they're talking about!

Me: Sure, let me get you a manager.


Manager: Hi ma'am what seems to be the problem?

Customer: Why the hell should I pay .75 cents for a cucumber that's on sale just because I don't want to buy 4 of them!

Manager: Ma'am if 4 cucumbers are $3 then 2 are $1.50 and one would be .75 cents.


ITS THIRD GRADE MATH... COME ON!!! (Source)

Guess Who!

Hey y’all… Surprise! This is not a pre-scheduled post! It’s actually me!

I'm sorry for being MIA for so long...has been a rough few months and have caught myself hibernating quite a bit. Looking back, I probably should have postponed my surgery.  Trying to deal with my mother's grief and mine has been hard enough but add in attending therapy and trying physically recover is a bit much.  Now add in that we have had an unusually large amount of rain in this area this past month and I have a leak in my basement so have spent quite a bit of time cleaning up water. *sigh*  Thank the good Lord for my wet vac!

Thank you so much for all the wonderful and supportive prayers, messages, emails, cards and letters.  You will never know how much they have meant to me!  💜

Okay...here is a bit more in the way of updates...my mom is struggling...can't say I know of a mother who wouldn't be.  She broke my heart the other day when she informed me that my brother was the first think she thought of when she woke up and the last thing she thought of before going to sleep.  I speak with her on a daily basis and can tell how bad a day she's having by how early she starts phoning and how many calls come in that day.

Yes, I am also still struggling with my brother's death.  Since we were only 13 months apart in age and my dad was a pure D redneck with a capital R, we were raised more as twins and even though he was over the road so much, he would often call me when he was driving long stretches in western Kansas.

Now to my shoulder...yes it is still painful but I have regained quite a bit of my mobility even though I still have a ways to go.  According to my doctor and therapist, it will probably be a year before I am "fully" healed.  Unfortunately, I can't take that year off work so am scheduled to go back to work on Tuesday the 5th of September.  Will just have to take frequent breaks which will make for longer days but will get through it.

I originally thought I would go back and respond to all the past comments but don't think I can handle that.  If there are any specific messages and/or questions you left that you would like me to respond to, please let me know and I will address those.  I will be responding to all comments from today moving forward.

I am gonna try to start getting around to visiting everyone but again, am gonna have to take it slow and easy.  If you have a particular post you want me to come visit, just email me.

I completed one painting that was almost done prior to my shoulder getting so bad and have completed two other paintings recently.  If you want to see them, just click on the "My Artwork" in the sidebar.

Hugs and blessings to all y'all!  💜💜💜💜💜💜💜

Now for your giggle of the day...

His Reaction

After His Wife Died, He Stunned Everyone With His Reaction

A man of 92 years, short, very well-presented, and takes great care of his appearance, is moving into an old people’s home today. His wife of 70 years has recently died, and he is obliged to leave his home.

 
After waiting several hours in the retirement home lobby, he gently smiles as he is told that his room is ready. As he slowly walks to the elevator using his cane, the assistant describes his small room to him, including the curtain for the window.
 
‘I like it very much’, he says, with the enthusiasm of an 8-year-old boy who has just been given a new puppy.
 
‘Mr. Todd, you haven’t even seen the room yet. Hang on a moment, we are almost there.’
 
‘That has nothing to do with it, he replies. ‘Happiness is something I choose in advance. Whether or not I like the room does not depend on the furniture, or the decor – rather it depends on how I decide to see it.
 
‘It is already decided in my mind that I like my room. It is a decision I take every morning when I wake up.
 
‘I can choose. I can spend my day in bed enumerating all the difficulties that I have with the parts of my body that no longer work very well, or I can get up and give thanks to heaven for those parts that are still in working order.
 
‘Every day is a gift, and as long as I can open my eyes, I will focus on the new day, and all the happy memories that I have built up over my life.
 
‘Old age is like a bank account. You withdraw in later life what you have deposited along the way. So the advice to you is to deposit all the happiness you can in your bank account of memories.
 
Remember these simple guidelines for Happiness:

• Free your heart from hate.
• Free your mind from worry.
• Live simply.
• Give more & Expect less.

 

Courtesy of TrendFrenzy

Breakfast

I fixed bacon, eggs and biscuits for breakfast this morning and after filling my bar pan with bacon, there were 3 slices left in the package.

Well, that would just make me mad to open the pack of bacon and find 3 pieces.

So, I grabbed another small bar pan and cooked those 3 pieces, too.

Mac said, "I think that's too much bacon..."


It's like I don't even know who he is.....
 

Courtesy of "lipstick, margaritas and hairspray" on Facebook

Cats

 

 

Confusing but Hilarious

19 slightly confusing but hilarious signs from around the world

The best of signs will do their purpose: inform you of what the sign maker wants you to know. Usually, sign makers will do this is in a straightforward, practical way.

But other sign makers decide to go with a more creative approach.

 
Below, we have compiled 19 examples of hilarious and strange signs. Get ready to giggle.

1. Finally, a good place to rest your wings.


 

2. Beware of cliff-diving kangaroos!


 

3. You generally shouldn’t run or walk backwards in dangerous areas.


 

4. Are you willing to take a chance?


 

5. You’re probably going to want to go right.


 

6. This sign’s cool. It won’t snitch.


 

7. If you read this sign, you’re a rule breaker.


 

8. This gate will always be in the right position.


 

9. It’s nice that they speak dog too.


 

10. Always solid advice.


 

11. Everyone should see this cat.


 

12. We can’t all walk through walls.


 

13. This sign has it’s priorities straight.


 

14. They warned you.


 

15. What a great deal!


 

16. Why aren’t these available everywhere?


 

17. Two totally unrelated signs, I’m sure.


 

18. Think of the animals!


 

19. Gotta love the honesty!



I love when people have fun with their jobs. Which sign was your favorite?

Courtesy of shareably

Body-Positive

9 Body-Positive Quotes to Boost Your Self-Esteem 
 


No matter how much time you put in at the gym or how thoughtfully you nourish your body, everyone suffers from body-image issues from time to time. When you need a little boost of self-esteem (and who doesn't), here are 9 of our favorite quotes and mantras.


"When life throws you curves, embrace them!" Whether you're curvy or thin or somewhere in between, embrace the body you have right now. Chicken legs or thunder thighs, your legs and feet take you where you want to go. Skinny arms or bat wings, your arms let you hug your kids. Love your body, it's your home!



"Happiness isn't size specific." Many people discover that after losing weight they're about as happy as they ever were. Happiness is a choice not a condition of achieving a "perfect" body. Choose to be happy right now!



"There is no wrong way to have a body." We're all human. We all have flaws. Your body is yours and you should love it for all the things it can do.



"You are so much more than the number you see on the scale." The scale can't tell you how you good you feel. The scale can't tell you how much you're loved. The scale can't tell you how much you should love yourself. It can't even tell you how strong you are. All it does is measure the effect of gravity on your body. That's it!



"Exercise because you love your body, not because you hate it." Exercise should never be a punishment for something you eat. It should make you feel good and strong and energized. Move out of love for yourself and your body rather than focusing on how many calories you're burning.



"Don't say anything about yourself that you wouldn't say about your best friend." Would you tell your best friend that she was lazy, worthless and fat. Would you say that you hate her and wish she would just change. No, of course, not! So stop saying those hateful things to yourself!



"If someone has a problem with your body, it's their problem--not yours!" Your body is your business. If someone says something rude to you about your body it's because of their own self-esteem issues. You're under no obligation to agree with them!



"Love yourself first and everything else falls into line." To be kind to others and love them you must first be kind to yourself. Start by loving yourself and then allow yourself to see the entire world with love rather than judgement. Can you imagine how good that would feel?



"To love yourself right now, just as you are, is to give yourself heaven." You live with yourself day in and day out for your entire life. Can you make being in your own skin a joy rather than a misery? You can if you focus on living in the moment and enjoying all the good things your body has to offer, rather than worrying about its imperfections.

 

Courtesy of Spark People

Kitchen Failures

Have shared some of these before but…

Kitchen failures that will make even the worst cook feel better…
“My eggs this  morning ... an Alien from Mars!          



 
“The Baker lost something. Wonder if he noticed?”

 
“Pressure cooker nightmare.”

 
“Got drunk, got hungry, fell asleep.”

 
“So a friend made a cake for her daughter’s birthday party. One of the kids started crying because it was so ugly.”

 
Expectations vs. Reality.

 
“Wife came home to this.”

 
Serious pizza fail.

 
And this pressure cooker just gave up.
Do believe the stove gave up also.