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Thursday, January 16, 2014

Top 10 Things Men Want From You


The same casual acquaintance who sent the article regarding the 'sex toys' also sent this article specifically to me...she thinks that I not only need a man, but I need help in finding one.  Really no surprises here in my opinion...what do you think?


It's no secret that men want sex. And generally, they want it a lot. But what other things does your man want from you? Turns out there are some simply sexy, easy, activities you can incorporate in your day-to-day and reap the benefits of a super-satisfied male. Here are 10 things your man wants you to do but might never ask for:


10. Listening

It's number 10, but that doesn't mean it isn't important; men aren't all about sex. As much as he tries to deny it, your man needs a shoulder and a listening ear from time to time, but knowing when is the key.


Try to hear not only what he is saying, but also what he is not saying, as most men won't tell you what's really going on in their heads right away. Reading between the lines will show him that you truly care, that you really get him, and that you're sympathetic to his needs and wants.


9. Homemade Food

It really is true that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. Your guy might love it if you cooked an elaborate meal for him, but he could be afraid to ask because he doesn't want to seem like he expects you to cook.


So, surprise him with a home-cooked meal every now and then; or if you can't cook, takeout on your good plates works too (just make sure to hide the boxes at the bottom of the trash can and he'll never know the difference).


8. Gifts

Men are basically just oversized kids; they love Christmas, Father's Day, and any excuse to get gifts. They love to get the latest boy toys: guy movies, stuff for their car, or any battery-operated gadget. Just remember that getting your guy something you think he should like but that he actually won't is a cardinal sin.


Try thinking about gift giving in these terms. Pre-ordering Halo 4 for him is equivalent to him sending you a dozen roses and chocolate at work for no reason. Buying two season passes to the museum is like him getting you a bowling ball for your anniversary.


7. Positive Affirmations

Just don't tell him they're called positive affirmations. All guys want to hear that they are really sexy and good in bed. Just like women, men need to hear that their women are happy with how they look and what they do.


It makes them feel appreciated, and it's also a turn on for them. This also plays into being more vocal in bed, which is closer to the top of his list - don't be afraid to scream about how amazing he is.


6. A Strip Show

Men love to watch a woman strip - it's just a fact of life. It ranks in at number 6 because it probably isn't something he wants all the time. The way to a man's heart is through his senses, especially his eyes.

As visual creatures, they love to see their woman tease and get naked in front of them. So turn on some music, dress up in a little outfit, and put on a show. If you don't get it quite right the first time, he won't mind - after all, practice makes perfect.


5. Role Playing

Again, this is not something most men want to do every night, hence the lower ranking. Don't be afraid to role play. Pretending to be someone else for a night isn't going to inspire your man to actually go spend a night with someone else.


In fact, he'll probably like it so much that you'll have no problem keeping him around for the long haul. Ask your guy who he might like you to pretend to be and then go shopping for the costume together.


4. Lingerie

Lingerie is so, so important. Some women seem to think that guys will hit anything that moves, but we actually like it when it is clear that our woman is making an effort. For instance, mismatched bras and panties are kind of a turn off for some guys.


So invest in some really sexy (and matching) lingerie. He'll want to see you in and then immediately out of it, but nevertheless, it is still important. Never skimp on sexy lingerie, and always have it handy.


3. Being More Vocal In Bed

In other words, screaming at the top of your lungs that you love whatever he's doing. Men start going crazy when they can tell that their women really likes what is happening at the moment in the bedroom.


So next time you get busy, go a little overboard when he does something you like. It'll make him feel more confident and he may start trying things that he's never done before.


2. Staying In Good Shape

You don't have to look like Jennifer Lopez, but guys do prefer it if their lady stays in shape and takes care of herself, inside and out. A boyfriend or husband loves it when you smell good, your clothes are clean, and you are in good shape. You want him to stay healthy, so offer that to him as well.


Men are more likely to take care of themselves if you are doing the same. It is also a good excuse to spend more money on the things we love, right girls? He'll be totally cool with you spending more of the budget on some extra perfume, makeup, and skinny jeans as long as he benefits, too.


1. Trying New Things In Bed

He would like to try new positions, role playing or even some more exotic types of sex, but you have been closed to things like that because either you're shy or had a bad experience in the past.


Just try to listen to him and do your best to consider what he's saying. Communication and openness to anything new is crucial to a fun, loving relationship. Keep this in mind -- if you try something that is important to him, he'll be more likely to give your fantasy a shot, too.

18 comments:

  1. I'm going to have to try the take out on my good dishes! :) Sorry I haven't kept up the past few weeks, but I always love stopping by here. :) Will have to read the one about the toys tomorrow. :)

    {{{hugs}}} EsMay

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    1. Hey Es May...stop by whenever you can...read whatever you want...no pressure. This is here for everyone to enjoy.

      Hugs and Blessings...
      Cat

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  2. I guess I better get some more lingerie. Purely unselfish reasons, right?

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    1. Of course Leah...you're doing it for your man! ;)

      Blessings...
      Cat

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  3. No arguments from me, I concur!

    I read a quote from Julia Childs where she said the way to satisfy any man is to remember the three F's. Feed'em, Flatter'em and F***"em! We really are simple-minded creatures!

    Hugs and Blessings,
    George

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    1. ROFL George! Julia...who knew! Thanks for sharing that awesome quote!

      Hugs and Blessings...
      Cat

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  4. Hmm, will have to work on my strip show technique ... oh, and homemade cooking :)

    LoL George. Sounds like Julia Child has it sussed :)

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. Hey Roz...bet you have that technique down! As far as cooking...I'm sure you are a good cook.

      Hugs and Blessings...
      Cat

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  5. Cat, your friend has plans for you it seems... :-) George- Julia child - who knew? :-) thanks for sharing! Hugs

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    1. Hey Terps...the 'friend' is more a casual acquaintance and I think she is more dissing me but I think it's just funny...gives me giggles to share. LOL

      Hugs and Blessings...
      Cat

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  6. Hi Cat, hope you are okay. Your friend is a trier, good luck there
    love Jan.xx

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    1. Hey Jan...I'm doing fine. Not sure the acquaintance is a trier...she's something...just not sure what. LOL

      Hugs and Blessings...
      Cat

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  7. Your friend is sweet :) Would it be bragging too much to say I already do most of these, lol! I don't know if I could do the strip show thing without without a few (or more) shots of something pretty strong. But then, I guess I'd just end up falling on my face anyway. Not a very sexy look!

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    1. Hey Queenie...if she was a friend, I might believe she sent this to me to be sweet but you really don't send stuff like this to a casual acquaintance that you don't know very well...not really sure what her intent was.

      You are definitely not bragging to say you do most or even all of these...most of these are just common sense for a loving relationship which you most definitely have! I am sure your husband thinks you are sexy...and that's all that matters dear!

      Hugs and Blessings...
      Cat

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  8. Doing a little catching up reading your last few weeks of posts, and can't resist commenting on this one.

    I'm going to come punch your acquaintance in the throat if she doesn't stop acting as though you need instructions and help on how to get, keep and take care of a man. What's wrong with this woman? She thinks you don't KNOW things? Pfft. Rotf! ;-)

    I *might* tell her thanks for sending these two emails because you shared them with us, but only because you added your classically delivered commentary. Lol!

    Oh, okay, I'll go play nice now. Pssstt! Hey, Cat! Don't forget the tip about meeting a man at the door while you are wearing only Saran wrap. I hear it works every time. You can spice up the outfit by wearing a cross-body ribbon sash with a festive bow tied right between your breasts. ;-)

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    1. LOL Irishey...you get it! Most of these are things that you do in a normal loving relationship!

      I did tell her thank you for the articles but didn't tell her that I was thanking her for the giggles and material for my blog! *snicker*

      Oh yes...meeting a man at the door wearing nothing but Saran wrap, a festive sash with bow and a big smile...worked really well for Kathy Bates character in Fried Green Tomatoes didn't it. ;)

      Hugs and Blessings...
      Cat

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